The Love Theory

Well, I have this theory about love. Doesn’t everybody?

Lemme tell you about my great theory….

We are all humans. Humans emote right? It’s some kind of a mental activity. Agreed so far?

Anyways, so it’s natural to like certain people you meet or know. In simple words- liking is a positive feeling towards a person based on certain traits.

Now, I think that love is just as natural an emotion, as liking is.

In fact, when it involves a person of the opposite sex:
liking + romance + circumstance = love (mathematical part of the theory)

So essentially, you could love just about anybody. I don’t mean any idiot. But any halfway decent guy who you meet, like, and who fits your eligibility criteria is a potential ‘love’. (physics and chemistry part of the theory)

But the difference between the love that works, and what doesn’t is that...

It all depends on what trait about the person led u to have that liking (or positive feeling). If it was something as shallow as his looks or style or attitude, then it wouldn’t last. And it would be called an infatuation, crush, mistake- whatever.

But if it was based on his character, his innate goodness, his intellectual level etc- then it would last, and maybe the positive feelings for that person would grow, to an extent where you would depend upon that person and want to be with that person forever... and then ...you would call it ‘true love’.

So, love is just an emotion, as natural as breathing. But it works only with the person who is right for you. But that person is not the only person in the world you could ever have loved. (hence disproving the “someone somewhere is made for you” and “one and only love” theories)

Maybe if you lived in China, you would have loved a Chinese. But what if you lived in Scotland? Would you never meet your “one true Chinese love”? Of course not! You would probably fall in love with a Scotsman. And if he was right for you, the relationship would work and you would call it ‘true love’.

Love is a feeling. Infatuation is a feeling too. But of lesser strength and conviction than love. Infatuation - if its with the right guy- might also grow into love and last forever.

You know what I’m saying?

Conclusion:
My theory is that love is just an emotion. Its not a storybook tale wherein- only one person is made for you, you love only once in your lifetime- that’s all bullshit.

You see- its up to us to consciously make the right kind of decision about our emotions in the end.

As an example id say- going by my theory- it’s entirely possible for me to love a guy who was not of my religion, right?

But what I’d do about my emotions- is a decision I take. And if I make the right one- ill pass him up till the next right guy comes along.

Maybe if we all loosened up about love, and let go of the Hindi cinema notions - we would have better luck at finding ‘true love’...