I wanted to write a post that negates an earlier post I'd written.
About - what else - love!!
The Love Theory - Revisited...
So, my earlier conclusion on love was that it is just an emotion that is fueled by circumstance and closeness, and can potentially happen with any number of suitable people...
My new theory scraps this premise altogether...
That the heart is an organ which pumps blood is a scientific fact. But generations of men will vouch that somewhere in the cavities of our chest is a place where love dwells. It is in that place that we feel an enormous welling of joy when our love is alive and attainable. And it is in that place that we feel a constricting tightness and a physical pain when our love is hurt.
Traditionally, we have referred to the heart as the house of love. Maybe it’s our soul, or our gut, or some kind of focal point where our emotions and hormones come together and form a delta. But my point is that there is a mechanism of some sort within us that regulates love. And maybe this mechanism has a logic all of its own. Maybe that's what explains unexplainable phenomenon such as love at first sight, one and only love, soul-mates etc.
This new theory has been the result of a combination of gradual realization dawning upon me and one sudden moment of realization. I was engrossed in my work and suddenly looked up to see my nephew and instinctively my “heart” swelled with love. And it reminded me that I had once felt this kind of deep, instinctive, primal emotion for that special someone. That just looking at his face would be enough to send love and joy and passion coursing through my veins.
Maybe it is not enough to logically choose someone, or weigh their suitability, or recognize their goodness and sweetness. I think there is a trigger somewhere deep within us that we cannot control. That dictates who we love and how much. That may go on loving or may choose not to love at all…
Conclusion:
Love is set apart from other emotions and is not within our realm of control. It does not obey logic or laws or my theories even. Call it magic, sorcery, or absurdity if you will; but the heart does seem to have a mind of its own.
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wow u sounded just like me(only with better english). im glad to know that u r normal or it could be that we are both abnormal hehe, watever it is, i was happy at ur realisation of this love theory because your sensibility and your tendency of doing calculations and measurements before making a decision was worrying me sick. u've always been great at math, n u r too logical for ur own good, but.... its nice to see u believe in the absurdities of life
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This is so unfair you cannot discredit my theories which I conjure up in my mind to make myself believe in something my gut doesn't believe, but i still beleive in them because it helps me in lessening my pain and makes me feel better, yes i agree there is exactly something like waht u described deep inside me too but I would still like to belive that love is just a byproduct of generations of love stories and concept of love and family that the human race came up for stability and control, just imagine if we went by the way nature has designed us
Male: To try and dissmeniate his genes in as many females as possible.
Female: to try and choose the best genes for her offspring.
It would be catastrophic it would just be a few lucky alpha males and a whole lot of disgrunted regular males.
The human race as it evolved also made the female a lot more monogamous so that for every guy there is a girl.
Yes I know my theories make sense but deep down I know they don't have a soul and I just use science to try and mask my pain and make myself feel better. I would like to ask am i right in deluding myself I know I am just a coward running from the truth.
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Brilliantly written.
At the risk of murdering the romantic spirit of your post, I will note (without disputing your higher-level theory at all) that evolution has genetically conditioned us to get happy upon finding a potential mate that is attractive, healthy and intelligent enough to maximize the survival of our genes via robust babies that themselves grow into attractive, healthy etc. etc.
Agar thoda bhee romance zinda reh gaya ho iss masle mein then I will further draw your attention to the oft-unappreciated role of pheromones in triggering attraction (daresay Love?) ... pheromones being chemicals secreted via sweat glands in various parts of the body (ew).
This may not be a suitable angle for a jasmine-scented Judith McNaught tearjerker, but it is one equally valid way to look at the whole thing, n'est pas? :)
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tum karte bolke yakeen tha hahahaha anyways it was too graphic i guess...
whoa! - For an alternate view on love - visit -
http://thatsthinking.blogspot.com/2006/03/i-therefore-will-to-love-you.html
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