The Love Theory

Well, I have this theory about love. Doesn’t everybody?

Lemme tell you about my great theory….

We are all humans. Humans emote right? It’s some kind of a mental activity. Agreed so far?

Anyways, so it’s natural to like certain people you meet or know. In simple words- liking is a positive feeling towards a person based on certain traits.

Now, I think that love is just as natural an emotion, as liking is.

In fact, when it involves a person of the opposite sex:
liking + romance + circumstance = love (mathematical part of the theory)

So essentially, you could love just about anybody. I don’t mean any idiot. But any halfway decent guy who you meet, like, and who fits your eligibility criteria is a potential ‘love’. (physics and chemistry part of the theory)

But the difference between the love that works, and what doesn’t is that...

It all depends on what trait about the person led u to have that liking (or positive feeling). If it was something as shallow as his looks or style or attitude, then it wouldn’t last. And it would be called an infatuation, crush, mistake- whatever.

But if it was based on his character, his innate goodness, his intellectual level etc- then it would last, and maybe the positive feelings for that person would grow, to an extent where you would depend upon that person and want to be with that person forever... and then ...you would call it ‘true love’.

So, love is just an emotion, as natural as breathing. But it works only with the person who is right for you. But that person is not the only person in the world you could ever have loved. (hence disproving the “someone somewhere is made for you” and “one and only love” theories)

Maybe if you lived in China, you would have loved a Chinese. But what if you lived in Scotland? Would you never meet your “one true Chinese love”? Of course not! You would probably fall in love with a Scotsman. And if he was right for you, the relationship would work and you would call it ‘true love’.

Love is a feeling. Infatuation is a feeling too. But of lesser strength and conviction than love. Infatuation - if its with the right guy- might also grow into love and last forever.

You know what I’m saying?

Conclusion:
My theory is that love is just an emotion. Its not a storybook tale wherein- only one person is made for you, you love only once in your lifetime- that’s all bullshit.

You see- its up to us to consciously make the right kind of decision about our emotions in the end.

As an example id say- going by my theory- it’s entirely possible for me to love a guy who was not of my religion, right?

But what I’d do about my emotions- is a decision I take. And if I make the right one- ill pass him up till the next right guy comes along.

Maybe if we all loosened up about love, and let go of the Hindi cinema notions - we would have better luck at finding ‘true love’...

Scared

Not scared of being alone
But I’m afraid that I’ll
Become used to the loneliness

Don’t fret that I have no one to talk to
But I worry that I’ll start
Appreciating the silence

Don’t regret what I miss out on
But I don’t want to forget
What it is that I’m missing

Not afraid of the changes in life
But I’m terrified that
Life will change me

Don’t miss the laughter all that much
But I hope the day never comes
When laughter misses me altogether

I know my friends will never think me a loser
But what if… just what if
I lose out on my friends

Havoc on my soul

The magic of nighttime
It descends upon me
Weaves a spell of longing
For that which cannot be

The soulful strains of music
They fall on my ears
Haunt me with memories
Of bygone days, long-gone years

The waves rise and fall
I walk the shore at night
I feel I've been caressed
Tenderly in the moonlight

The lovely trickling raindrops
They fall on my face
Make me want to dance,
To sing, to laugh, to race

The seasons change
I watch the leaves fall
I wonder where ill be tomorrow
Wonder if ill be around at all

Havoc on my soul
That’s what these things do
Tell me- is it just me
Or do u feel this way too?

Forever

To smile a day,
I’d mope a year
For a hint of joy,
I’d shed a tear

I would search a lifetime, if I could only find a way
I would lose him forever, if I could have him for a day

For but a moment
I’d give my all
For a little hope
I’d let myself fall

I would forget to talk, if he could hear what I say
I would lose him forever, if I could have him for a day

For one wish
I’d risk the stars
To hear a word
I’d wait for hours

I won’t ask him to take me, when he goes far far away
‘Cause I would lose him forever, if I could have him for a day